The Sting of Rejection

 

The sting of rejection is painful and it’s real. Just as real as a yellow jack sting, the sting of rejection is painful to our hearts. It can stop us in our tracks. It can stop us from finishing what we set out to do. It can be paralyzing. We writhe and we try to shake the pain but it proves more difficult than that. It does not easily go away. It lingers. 

Why does rejection hurt so bad? 

From the time I was a little girl all I have wanted was to receive recognition and praise. My mother died when I was only three years old. Three years old is a very impressionable age. The typical three-year old is well aware of the fact that they are an individual, yet while trying to assert their individualism and gain more independence all the while they are still very connected and rely on their parent(s) for proving for their basic needs- and to provide protection, comfort, love, and peace.

A little girl eventually grows up but the seeking of recognition and praise does not go away with her advancing age.

We were meant to love and be loved so when we are rejected by the things in this world it hurts. We all have this in common. In this world it is a guarantee that rejection will occur but what does one do when rejection happens?

I was so sweetly reminded tonight in my sorrow and sting of rejection to look at Jesus for the answer. Jesus was rejected by many while on this Earth and even through rejection he carried on and carried out his purpose. He kept his eye on the truth. He was created for a purpose and on purpose by the Creator of the universe. What a sweet reminder. You have a purpose. You are chosen. You are set apart NOT set aside. Your loving Abba sees you. You are recognized. You are known.How could you not be? He formed you in your mother’s womb. “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” Psalm 139:13You have a hand carved place at the table. Do not let the sting of rejection stop you from carrying out your purpose. You matter. The Father is cheering for you and is praising you. He says, ” I see you. I love you. You are my beloved”.Eli Roi(the God who sees me) Genesis 16:13-14. 


There is only One whose option matters. An audience of only One.  Do not let the sting of the world’s rejection stop you from carrying out your purpose. Know that the world will in fact reject you but you are called to carry on and be loved my beloved. 

1 John 3:1 “See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.”


Psalm 136:26 “Give thanks to the God of heaven, for his steadfast love endures forever.”

Zephaniah 3:17 “The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.”

John 3:16  “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

1 John 4:9-11 In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.”

All His Love,

Nichole

Freedom in Christ

Freedom in Christ

All month-long we will be focusing on what else but FREEDOM!!

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. ” Galatians 5:1

“The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.” Galatians 5:6

The Holy Spirit recently spoke these verses again to me.  How wonderful that the Holy Spirit  has so much love for us that He will repeat things and use consistency to teach us what He wants us to see and learn.

Studying and meditating on these two verses this is what I came to discover. To stand firm is = immovable, not easily moved; yoke= a wooden crosspiece that is fastened over the necks of two animals and attached to the plow or cart that they are to pull. In this verse the Lord is telling us to stand firm and do not be “yoked” or “connected” to slavery again. We are no longer attached to slavery as Christ broke the chain to slavery and to sin with his bloodshed and resurrection.

I will ask you what the Spirit asked me, “In what areas are you yoked to slavery? In what areas of your life are you still acting as a slave?”

Could it be fear? Fear of man and what others think of you? Or Fear that maybe you are not good enough? Or maybe shame or guilt? Take a minute and ponder these questions.

For me I have held onto fear in many areas of my life. Fear that I will never be able to lose weight, fear that I am not worthy of love because of my weight, fear that I am not good, fear that I will never truly be unconditionally loved. I have also hid behind shame and guilt for things I did in my past. None of this is what the Father had in mind for us. It is for that very reason of freedom that Christ came to set us free. Freedom from ourselves and the way we see and think of our selves and freedom from sin.

Though the seasons of life will change, His love remains. He is so faithful. He comes running when we fall apart. The only thing that is required of us is to receive it. Receive the beautiful gift of love and freedom. A freedom that is only found in Christ.

God continues to show me this everyday. My hope is that anyone who needs to read this,  finds it, and gains some clarity as well.

I ask that you meditate on these verses and ask the Father to show you what He wants you to see and know. Ask Him to show you the areas that you are yoked to slavery in your life. Ask Him to help you gain your freedom and live from that place of freedom.

Prayer:

Dear Heavenly Father,

Thank you so much for loving me enough to sacrifice yourself in order for my freedom. I am in awe of how much love you have for me. Please continue to stretch and challenge me, deepen my roots in knowing who and whose I am so that I am able, eager, willing and delighted in pouring out and expressing my love and faith in you by pouring out and expressing love to others. Please instill a well of joy and love for life and for people inside me so that I may pour out that joy and love to others.

In Jesus’s sweet name,

Amen.

“Holy and Hard”


Holy and hard are two things that often go together.

Raising three kids all in different stages from pre K, middle school to high school is hard. Often there are times when I feel very overwhelmed with it all. Overwhelmed between all the different schedules, activities, and new recent life experiences like first jobs and drivers ed.

Tonight I sent a friend a text asking for advise about it all. Her response and advise was spot on. Something I needed to be reminded of. She said, “You will miss this. You will miss the crazy. You will miss the chaos, as silly as that sounds…You will miss them.”

Naturally this got me thinking and reflecting on it all. Everything that is of value takes work. Oftentimes we don’t see the fruit of our labor immediately but we can rest assured that we are in the fight together. We are in the race together for the unseen prize. The prize that is worth more than anything and everything. Eternity.

In parenting we are shaping little ones and their souls. We are conditioning them for the fight of their lives, eternity and eternity together. When it all gets to be too much we should stop and look UP. Our time here on Earth is just a speck in time. A blink of the eye. We must look for the big picture in it all and remember to fight the good fight to win to win the prize.
Parenting and marriage are my ministry. It is hard. It is also holy. Holy and hard definitely do go together.

All His Love.
Nichole

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“For His Glory or Yours?”

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Ask yourself this question, ” Is what I’m doing for his Glory or for my own glory?” 
The truth is, nothing you do out of glory for yourself will produce any useful or good fruit.  If you want to live fruitFull it all has to come from a place of humility and gratitude and for His Glory. 

John 15:5 says, “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.”

Look at your life and start asking yourself, how can I live for Him today? Jesus guide me. Teach me. Show me. Let me be your hands and feet. Let it all be for your glory. Use me today Lord. 

And please don’t be weary or disappointed if you have not gotten this right. Truth be told, none of us have it 100% figured out. Let us just do the next right thing and remember….

Lamentations 3:22-23 says, “The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning.” 

Let us begin fresh. 
All His Love ❤